10 LESSONS I’VE LEARNED THIS YEAR

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um-071911-emailThe year is just half over and it’s been resplendent with lessons learned.

Some of them came easily, most of them with a deeper challenge to slow down and savor a moment of awareness.

These 10 are especially useful for me.

  1. Take care of your health. It’s the first part of the often-chanted trilogy health, wealth, and happiness. It comes first, because without it, little else matters.
  2. Embrace the liberty of thinking outside the confines of what you already believe to be so. And in doing just that, you may begin to unveil the source of your thoughts. Prepare to be surprised when the source of your thoughts is met with “Wow where did that come from?” Then keep looking.
  3. Awareness requires vigilance. Lack of awareness is not an excuse. If you’re tired of paying attention, look deeper into the source of “tired”. What are you doing that you’re covering up with a “have to” instead of the joy of doing.
  4. Attack and defend are part of the same cycle. It’s challenging to stop the cycle and see what is happening. When you remember that you only see a small part, it allows you to step back and notice not only the content of what’s taking place, but also the source. And then you begin to see the forest from the trees.
  5. Sometimes you have to take a stand and let the chips fall where they may. You’ll know it’s a risk worth taking when you go for it, and finally get a good night’s sleep. Be willing to stand up for your ideas. No one else will until you do.
  6. Sacrifice makes room for what’s sacred to you. What am I willing to sacrifice? This is a question that follows me each day. It’s easy to sacrifice what doesn’t matter, harder to sacrifice habits that no longer serve your peace of mind but provide momentary comfort. Start with just one sacrifice, and what is sacred has room to grow.
  7. The more aware you are the more difficult it is to hide behind anger, unforgiving attitudes, blame, excuses, excesses, and justifications. Awareness itself is the teacher.
  8. Listening doesn’t mean agreement. I listen to understand. Listening closely allows me to be at ease in the moment. It also allows questioning what’s not clear. Let contribution be the source of your actions. This one thought guides my communication.
  9. A breakdown is the first test of a relationship. Instead of getting more intense and trying harder to convince, back off and pay attention. Take a cooling off period to collect your thoughts. I still like to sleep on a problem if I can, and I usually can!
  10. Accomplishment is a gift. “Even on those days when things haven’t gone great, I can come home and give myself the accomplishment of a 30 or 40 minute run.” Those words from Arthur Blank, co-founder of the Home Depot are music to my ears.

These are 10 gifts as well as lessons. Use them generously and often.

My love goes with you as you work with this Uplifting Moment.

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