I recently spent time in Nashville visiting my husband’s family. While I was brushing my hair one morning, I overheard my brother-in-law, Randy, saying that he’s hard on himself, and it sometimes keeps him from networking in the music industry in Nashville.
We are all very close and love each other dearly. We have different approaches to life and use each other’s strengths to think about what matters most. My direct manner reflects a liberated woman, raised in Los Angeles, which can be somewhat out of context in a southern environment, where being polite can rule over being direct. Nevertheless, their unconditional acceptance of me over 30 years is something I cherish.
So, thankfully, it was no surprise to Randy, when I walked in on the conversation waving my hairbrush, and said, “Be hard on yourself but do it anyway!” We all cracked up at the velocity of my statement. Read more...
Tracey is a renowned yogini and Co-Director with her husband Ganga White, of the White Lotus Foundation and Retreat Center in the mountains above Santa Barbara California. For over 30 years they have taught yoga to thousands of teachers and students. Their style is non-dogmatic, requiring no gurus or outer-dominated structure. In this conversation Tracey talks candidly about what matters most to her, and the challenges and joys of partnership.
When you don’t complete or finish what you say you will do, you bring yesterday into today.
How do you know you’re incomplete? You talk to yourself (and others) about what’s unfinished, whether it’s a conversation, project, business, relationship, or goal; usually with some level of disappointment or concern.
Take a moment and think about what you’ve carried over from yesterday into today, that’s still unfinished, and if you don’t complete it, you’ll carry it with you into tomorrow. What would allow you to say, at the end of this very day, “I am complete for today?”
This is a powerful practice that allows you to pause, and think about what you say yes to BEFORE you actually make a promise. This pause allows you to determine whether you can deliver on your commitment. In the meantime, you can ground this practice into your daily living. Start by completing what’s incomplete. Write down anything that is incomplete, schedule it, and do it. Read more...
Reaching for the TRUTH requires eliminating the habit of pretending. This can be an enormous undertaking because it confronts what you know and what you don’t know. Pretending to know includes believing your self-limiting stories, excuses, justifications, and fantasies. Pretending not to know includes ignoring being overweight, out-of-shape, in debt, having health concerns, clutter, and unfinished business. It can also include ignoring your happiness.
The first step to a successful change is recognizing the truth. It’s the recognition of what doesn’t work or bring you closer to having what you say you want.
When you stop pretending and come face to face with what is, you can frankly say, “I don’t know how to impact this, cause if I did, I would have already done something about it!” And maybe you did something about it and then you stopped. It’s refreshing to simultaneously take responsibility for what is happening or not happening in your life, and be honest about not knowing how to effectively have an impact on your desired outcome. Read more...