Monthly Archives: September 2010


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um-092810a-email“The battles that count aren’t the ones for gold medals. The struggles within yourself – the invisible, inevitable battles inside all of us – that’s where it’s at.” Jesse Owens, Olympic Gold Medalist track and field

I spoke with a participant in a recent workshop and she told me that she almost didn’t attend because the title of the workshop was the Promise of Fulfillment and the title didn’t attract her. Eek! It’s also the name of my book!

What got her to come to the workshop and buy the book, was a preview I did of the program and specifically this statement:

“With all the workshops, books, business tools, spiritual teachings, yoga and mediation available to you today, still some problems persist.”

That problems persist, she understood. She attended to find an access to solving those persistent problems. Fulfillment would then take care of itself!


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um-092110-emailI’m doing a considerable amount of recruiting right now, and one of the questions often asked by recruiters is what are your weaknesses. I also notice that the question is regularly asked in organizations that are doing their annual planning, or doing reference checks on new employees. I’ve never found the question to reveal anything substantial because it doesn’t create a foundation for growth.

You don’t make someone strong by calling them weak, and you don’t make yourself strong by blaming the circumstances of your job, relationships, or life as if they have the power to make you weak.

I know this might sound like ignoring your weaknesses, but I’m not talking about ignoring anything. I’m talking about where you place your focus.

If you want to be great, build on your strengths.

Let’s look at what you can accomplish by building on your strengths.


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um-091410-emailHave you ever looked at someone you loved through the eyes of judgment and wondered what you ever saw in them in the first place?

It’s disconcerting, to say the least, to see someone through disgust, contempt, frustration, or even just annoyance. Once you enter into judgment you begin to build a case against someone, and collect all the evidence you can find to support your point of view.

When I notice that I’m looking for evidence to support my judgment of someone, I try to find a way back into love. The entry is usually with a question.

What is the root of my judgment? Is it the ability to make a considered decision or come to a sensible conclusion? Or is it criticizing or condemning someone from an assumed moral superiority? Both are dictionary definitions of the word judgment.


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um-090710-emailTwo things happened in the last few weeks that caused me to think about the spiritual journey I undertook from an early age.

First, my husband and I received a Spiritual Beacon award from the Mile Hi Church in Denver. Shortly thereafter, I was working to resolve a conflict that was causing turbulence on a corporate team.

Both of these events inspired me to consider the key practices that I’ve learned and taught over the years. It’s the essence of what I’ve brought to both spiritual seekers and corporate teams over a lifetime of practice, and are gifts of wise teachers and life experiences that keep on giving, long after lessons have been learned or “experiences” are over.

First is acceptance. Why is acceptance key? Consider the following 5 wisdoms:
1. You can’t change the past
2. Acceptance allows you to see beyond the boundaries of your perspective
3. Acceptance is the beginning of forgiveness
4. You can’t change what you don’t accept
5. Acceptance closes the gap between what you want and the way it is