Monthly Archives: February 2011

A MARRIAGE MADE IN HEAVEN

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um-022211-emailWhat is it that binds a life to a life?

Love, passion, partnership, shared vision and outlook on life? Is it something magical that leaves you vulnerable yet strengthened? Is it a commitment you made connected by family, mingled assets, and property? All of the above, and probably more. I could add comfort, the kind of deep satisfaction that you get when you come home, and see their car already parked in the garage.

How do you keep that spark ignited over time? Ask yourself what you see when you look at your partner in life today. Do you see who they are, the whole of them? Do you accept them just the way they are, and the way they aren’t?

These questions contain a deeper inquiry into the nature of relationship, but one thing has become clear to me.
A marriage made in heaven is a friendship here on earth.

4 WAYS TO GET PERSPECTIVE

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um-021511-emailWhen your friends say, “You need to get some perspective!” you’ll know you’ve probably lost yourself in a situation that needs your attention.

You may be so mired in the details of what you are doing; you only see what’s in front of you. It’s like you’re driving a bus, and forget where you’re going or why you got on the bus in the first place.

Perspective lost, constitutes grounds for an immediate time out to review where you are, and where you’re going. You might not change anything, but you’ll remember why you’re going in that direction, and more importantly, you’ll notice what’s missing.

Here are 4 questions to ask in order to gain perspective, take a 10,000-foot view, and see what’s surrounding you, and the actions you’re taking.

ARE YOU COACHABLE?

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um-020811-emailMost of us would say we are coachable. We want to improve our game, recognize our blind spots, and be successful.

But in actuality, I wonder how coachable we really are! Just take one day, today would be a good day, and listen to what people tell you as if they were a valuable performance coach you were paying to help you win. No matter what world you walk in … the office, family, gym, church or temple, make today about:

Listening, performing, and energizing your effort.

It’s simple.

1. To listen, stop talking. And stop thinking about what you’re going to say in response to what is being said, long enough to hear what’s being said. You are a creative person. Allow yourself a moment to consider the information, as if you’re hearing it for the first time. As if that person is on your team. Don’t dismiss it, devalue it, or defend it. A coach is on the sidelines for a reason. They can see the whole field. They can see what the players miss. Listen like winning depended on it. What can you discover that is currently hidden from your view? What can you learn today?

WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

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um-020111-emailI’ll tell you what keeps me up at night.

Details.

With the advantage of instant communication, email and text messaging, we have moved into a 24-hour day, 7 days a week.

At the end of the day, I don’t have to check my email or texts, but often I will be pulled toward that last look before I go to sleep. Curiosity kills sleep. I may as well sit down, and write or text back with the information being requested. Otherwise the details of what needs to be done stay with me throughout the night.

Getting everything done I’ve committed to do without letting go of my health practices … running long distances and eating right … are becoming a puzzle to solve. I spoke about this with my long time friend and mentor, Wayne Austin. He said he creates and sticks to a routine structure. I know that’s right. Create a routine and stick to it, and make sure it is a structure for fulfillment.