Monthly Archives: October 2011

Healthy Indifference: The Antidote For Stress

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um-102511-emailSome of my greatest discoveries start with resistance to an idea.

For example, one of my associates teaches his sales staff the tool of indifference to remind them to move on when someone says no.

Indifference.

I don’t like the word. It always struck me as a description of someone who doesn’t care. I prefer to teach not being attached to an outcome, which in my mind gives you the freedom to both care and let go.

Then the other day I was taking myself to task for not sticking to my diet and exercise plan, and my basic self said, “Geez Paulette, you need a little healthy indifference!” That simple statement caused me to look into how healthy indifference could help reduce stress in the pursuit of goals. read more

Just Breathe

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um-101811-emailWhen plans go astray, just breathe

When nothing stays on schedule, just breathe.

When people get mad at you, just breathe.

When life gets to you, just breathe.

When someone refuses to listen, just breathe.

When others don’t keep their commitments, just breathe.

When someone changes his or her mind, and it costs you time, money or opportunity, just breathe.

When breakdowns happen, as they inevitably will, just breathe.

Now that you’re calm … read more

Just Breathe

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um-101811-emailWhen plans go astray, just breathe

When nothing stays on schedule, just breathe.

When people get mad at you, just breathe.

When life gets to you, just breathe.

When someone refuses to listen, just breathe.

When others don’t keep their commitments, just breathe.

When someone changes his or her mind, and it costs you time, money or opportunity, just breathe.

When breakdowns happen, as they inevitably will, just breathe.

Now that you’re calm … read more

Keep Your Enthusiasm

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um-101111-emailWinston Churchill told us that life is just one damn thing after another.

The good news is that he also gave us the antidote: success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

Therein lies a secret for happiness.

When it feels like it’s just one damn thing after another, keep your enthusiasm. Your enthusiasm inspires you to stay in the game, and keep playing to win.

Enthusiasm fuels your ability to deal with what shows up whether it’s failure, success, feedback, appreciation or criticism. read more

What Makes You Different?

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um-100411-emailI was so angry yesterday.

Yes me.

Angry. Annoyed. Frustrated.

I vented to my husband who gratefully takes my side most of the time. He concurred that I had every right to be irritated.

And then the next morning came to pass in the natural course of time, but before I communicated my displeasure to the antagonist, I did what makes me different. I can’t help it. It’s how I’m wired up, or as Jessica says in the film noir Who Framed Roger Rabbit, “I’m not bad, I’m just drawn that way.” read more