Some are pleasant.
Some are painful.
Memories are like that. It’s like looking at an old photo album when you decide to digitize it. You digitize it so you don’t have to carry around the physical holder of all those snapshots. And some, you probably delete, so you don’t have to look at them again!
However in the case of memories, you are the physical holder of all those life size images. You can’t digitize that! But maybe you can “digitize” memories, in a way, by contextualizing the images into:
- Fond memories
- Lessons learned
- Funny stories
- Momentary lapses of reason
- Risks taken
- Risks not taken
All of which shaped who you are now, and all of which can settle in to an understanding, weighed on balance, with what you know today … with perhaps, one exception: Incompletion.
Incompletion can still gnaw at you. A memory you can’t or won’t leave alone, spinning out different endings, based on who you are today not who you were then. So how do you contextualize those life experiences that didn’t quite turn out the way you wanted, and no matter how much you put it down as just part of life, it pops back up?
I suggest the following 3 practices:
1. Forgive yourself. You don’t have to forget in order to forgive. Whatever happened will continue to inform your actions and current wisdom about life. It’s part of you. You don’t have to do anything to keep it alive. Let it be.
2. Put it away. Let go of the expectation that you can change the past. If you could have, you already would have. Let it be.
3. Accept it as a mystery. It seems you always want answers. You’re not alone. That’s why mysteries are so popular. After all, you read mysteries so that everything will be made clear! Don’t you love the mysteries where you gasp out loud at the way it resolves itself in the end? Those are the mysteries where we say, “Don’t tell the ending!” Why? That’s the fun. It has to be discovered. Let it be.
The mystery I’m most focused on today is love. It continues to surprise me with the unexpected. Perhaps this is not a mystery to be solved, but a mystery to be lived. Let it be.
My love goes with you as you work with this Uplifting Moment.