“RESILIENCE” by Michael Davis
The ideal life, at least for me, is not a life devoid of upsets and challenges. I’ve come to see problems as part of the process of life. What is important is how quickly I return to balance.
An example of this is when I went to the health club after recovering from an earache and sore throat, and discovered, to my surprise, that my normal run had not suffered at all since before I became ill. In fact, it was stronger. My pace was even, my mind more relaxed, and I was able to dive into the moment and enjoy it.
Maybe you need to break down periodically, in order to come back stronger, leaner and more focused on your game. It doesn’t seem to matter if your game is sports, relationships, or business, as long as you know that achieving it makes you better in some way.
If you are at the top of your game, then maybe this is a time to build some reserves. Perhaps you can use this time to build strength by not overdoing it, and getting the rest you need to deal with the breakdowns that have yet to arrive. In this way, you can develop resilience when you are strong, to use when you’re not.
If you are in the middle of a breakdown, or sense that one is coming, choose wisely what you do next. What actions can you take to bring balance to your internal systems of health and well being, and also to your external support systems of work and family?
Here are some ways to tune up your mental and physical systems and increase your resilience.
1. Make what you do a sacred act — Rituals and sacred rites restore balance because the mind is diverted from worry to acceptance; from belief in a negative outcome to surrender to a higher good. Find solace and fulfillment in what you do, not in some undetermined future.
2. Do one thing at a time — It’s been said a million times, yet we still try to take more bites than we can chew. Give yourself a break by giving your full attention to just one bite, one conversation, one goal at a time. Do one thing and do it well.
3. Exert yourself — I know. This sounds like the Puritan ethic, but it’s true. When you exercise just beyond your limits, or think just beyond where you are comfortable, a new energy comes into play. Challenge yourself to get up and out of the familiar, and try something new.
On Saturday March 19, Paulette will be speaking at a Day For Women in Petaluma, CA on bringing fulfillment to each day. http://www.wcagroup.net/our_programs.shtml